Wedding Stress and Mistakes Made with Your Fiance(e)

When it's just the two of you, dating, life can be grand. It is truly the most self absorbed period of your relationship when there are no more worries than what movie to see or where to eat dinner. You can talk for hours about everything under the sun and you can fantasize about your future life together.

And then you get engaged. After the "hour of bliss" of being newly engaged, reality gives most of us a big smackdown. Without realizing it, the ring symbolizes the beginning your public relationship. Your relationship is no longer about just the two of you. When you get engaged, you are becoming a son or daughter in law, a brother or sister in law, and you are joining a new family. Imagine being adopted at age 25 or 30 and this is what it's like to get married. You are entering into a new emotional forcefield, a new family you did not grow up with and do not share a history with. Even if you've known your fiance(e) for years, there is nothing quite like "til death do us part" to change the way others will relate to you or to change how you view or relate to others. All the sudden your boyfriends mom is going to become your mother-in-law. If you want children, you will be making her into a grandmother and she will be your childrens grandmother, no matter how much you love or hate her.

Our book, Take Back Your Wedding, goes into great detail on working as a couple towards the big wedding day. There are excersizes designed to help get the conversation going and to avoid common pitfalls in wedding planning. We are very groom friendly, believing men have an important role in the wedding even if they chose not to be an active co-planner. Our excersizes are designed to get conversations started that you may not think about or may not occur to you as you entire an intense wedding marketplace filled with vendors wanting to sell you on everything from personalized stamps for your invitations, to knives worth as much as a semester of college. We don't diss the wedding industry at all - they play a vital role in helping us have a beautiful, memorable wedding. But without a guide to keep you on the path you intend, it is easy to slip away from what you value and create a chaotic, stressful wedding.

Remember this is the first test of your relationship as a married couple. How you work together, work with your families and friends, how you plan a large, public event while planning for your "happily ever after" is going to test how well you know each other, communicate and how intentional you can be as a couple to never lose sight of why you're going through all the stress in the first place - to celebrate your marriage and to join your two families for one important day.

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